Part three of the relationships series-
I have so far talked about “this” and I have talked about “the other” so naturally this post is about- “that” for those who don’t know what the sentence so far meant I am talking about intimacy, for those who still have no clue what I am talking about I mean sex.
What exactly is sex? Don't bother asking adults. They wont tell- and if they do they will give you the ridiculous version. However, painstaking independent research and hours of playground consultation have yielded fruitful, if tentative, results. There are several theories, but most of them conclude it has something to do with acting ridiculous in the dark. This is called "making love". Careful study of popular song lyrics, advertising catch-lines, TV sitcoms, movies, and T-Shirt inscriptions offers us significant clues as to its nature. Apparently it makes people characterless and insane. Some graffiti I once observed that said "sex is good". All available evidence, however, points to the contrary.
Now we know what sex is- lets go to its finer points- actually lets talk about intimacy instead of sex. As sex is not something I can give an expert analysis on. Deep intimacy is above all the feeling of great seduction. Unlike sex, and you can disagree here, intimacy is seductive- be it a gentle kiss or a longing touch or even just a look of not passion but of complicity. Relationships seem to lack that, screw what the relationship books tell you, look for that look of complicity- now that’s satisfying.
And before Rakshi Castrates me let me tell you about hugs. Actually I will leave her to tell you about hugs, she is the expert. I will just say this hugs are important in friendship or just humanship really but in a relationship the warmth of one body holding on to another has a completely different effect. Also more importantly hug people unless you want to be castrated by rakshi.
WOW- I can see why they write books on these things, single blogposts don’t do it any justice. I give up- its impossible to write on these subjects. Screw it
I will just give you one piece of advice when it comes to relationships-
Keep it real, keep it great- keep it really great.
5 comments:
Ahh... the warmth of hugs. Safe to say, I miss those of the expert - Fwizzykins. OH! The 69 hug is hilarious to perform! When the other person is seated on a table with their back turned towards you, they lean backwards, arms wide open. You then acknowledge the invitation by leaning over their reclining torso. The result is a perfectly synchronised 69 hug! As far as I am aware, it is the advent of me and the Azmeister.
Ahh you darlings!! *hugs the screen*
No no , no one's going to get castrated. Lectured, perhaps. Hugged to prove the warmth? Hell yea... Honestly though, its not that there's a notable deficiency in mutual embraces.. there's enough hugging happening everywhere. But how many of them are genuine? If you watch closely, you cant tell how many are just an excuse for some breast-butting action and how many are heartfelt cuddles.
If you really want to see the power in assymetrical responses..do this:
go to the airport. Two gates: the departure gate and the arrivals gate. Look at the frequency, intensity and candid illustrations of emotion. And heres the thing- both are on opposing ends of the happiness scale.
Next... military men and their wives/girlfriends/families. You know that little wordball in your throat when you just chew up every letter of your thoughts and your eyes well up? What's the reflexive response? *no shit*.. hug hug.
So... in conclusion, its safe. Its special. It keeps wordballs at bay and relationships alive.
There's so much more to say... ah never mind. Just go hug someone and let your body do the speaking.
Missing you guys everday.
oh.. and notice this..
- eyes shut
- delayed breaths
- tangible warmth
- surroundings stream into a seemingly distant haze.
... and the list goes on.
Then comes the fun fun hug-for-no-reason hug. The hyperness.
Its about energy transfer in a social contract since we're being all *technical* about things in society these days.
Ok now i'm ridiculously overhyped...heehee
You took the words out of my mouth-
I was about to say the exact same thing.
RZ I MISS YOU :(
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